Now don’t fib, folks, isn’t one of the introductory questions out of your mouth when you meet someone new almost always “so what is it that you do?” Jobs become identities. Roles become labels put on us, sometimes before our names are even mentioned.
I’ve struggled for years with how to explain what it is I do. First and foremost, I am Dawn. After that, there have been labels of wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, instructor, practitioner, cousin, trainer, mentor, room parent, you get the idea.
Elizabeth was a holistic client of mine for the first time almost five years ago now. I immediately connected with her and knew that she would walk away from her Life Alignment session that day feeling better. She mentioned that she was coming to see me because her Dad and step Mom suggested that a session could help her sort some things out and get clear on where she was headed.
She talked about the idea of having children with her current mate. She knew it would be a big step but didn’t know why she was so hesitant about it when she felt like all the major pieces were there and it was her next right leap to take. She was truly in love with this man, both of them had amazing jobs, and the recent purchase of a quaint home in her beloved New York seemed like it should have sealed the deal.
I shared a brief snapshot of my current kid-dom life. My daughters were aged 5 and 9 at the time. And damn, it was hard. I didn’t sugar coat anything as she asked hard questions about parenting and the season of life I was currently in. I shared with her the struggles that were on my marriage, my household, my world in general.
I also shared with her that I didn’t necessarily “advertise” my holistic offerings to my community for fear of the ramifications it could present for my kids. “There’s a lot of people who live from a place of fear of new experiences” I said…and I looked in my studio mirror as I was saying it and a strange feeling came over me. She must have picked up on it. She looked me square in the face and responded “I’m so sorry, Dawn, it must be difficult to live in a place where you can’t be who you really are.” Elizabeth and I learned a shitload from each other in those two interchanges.
Still working on it…
Five years later (last week, actually) I had a conversation with a long-time mentor of mine about why I’m still hesitant to speak about my profession with others. So no, things aren’t fixed for me but they’re a work-in-progress. This blog is a great place to begin (and a nice way to introduce myself to the world from the other side of my “what-I-do label”.)